Introducing Sex Toys into a relationship

How to prepare your partner for sex toys

Adult tips & information on sexuality, fantasy, play, games, desires, orgasms, fun, satisfaction and stimulation

Great! You've eventually overcome your fear of buying and trying out sex toys. In fact, you've mastered your fear to such an extent that you've actually started to enjoy having your favourite friend (or friends for that matter) around. And you know that your partner will have just as much fun with it with you if only you knew how to take that first step to introducing your friends to your partner. To make your life a little easier, here are a few pointers to take the edge off those embarrassing moments that are bound to happen:

Not-so-sharp: It is not a good idea to inconspicuously hide your vibrator under the mattress, just to rip it out in mid-sex with a fake "oh-look-what-I've-found" expression on your face.
Razor-sharp: Act totally normal (not meaning sexpressionless as if you're not enjoying his concerted effort) throughout your sexual play. Should it happen that he starts acting suspiciously, noticing that all is not well, nonchalantly drop a quirk that you forgot your back massager in the bed.

Not-so-sharp: So, you've overcome the hurdle of having another member join you in your sexual play. Don't give your toy all the attention and make him feel left out.
Razor-sharp: Blow his mind and his member like you've never done before to leave him totally flabbergasted by your sexual desire for him. All the while you have your sex toy lay seemingly discarded on the side of the bed to show him that he's the ultimate toy in satisfying your sexual desires.

Not-so-sharp: Suddenly demand that he starts using your G-spot dildo to stop you from faking it, or in any way insinuate that he needs to use a particular sex toy because he is not capable of stimulating you in a satisfying manner.
Razor-sharp: Shower him with praises over the things that he does do well (or simply fake it if he's a total lost case in bed) and put on your best puppy love face to let him know that you really enjoy his sexual stimulation. If there's nothing about him that turns you on, you have a real problem and should perhaps seek professional help (what were you thinking when you shagged up with this guy in the first place!)

Not-so-sharp: You've hit rock bottom and cannot stand faking another amateur session of puffing and panting until he comes leaving you high and dry. Despite your desperation, don't let him feel that sex is going to be a drab unless you bring your faithful companions.
Razor-sharp: Take a deep breath and in your best pretend-to-be-innocent virgin voice make an unforced suggestion that you think it might be a great idea to try some fun and games during your sexual play, who knows, it might just make the great sex you already have even greater!

Not-so-sharp: Bringing up this touchy subject is all about getting your timing right. The worst time would be just after you've had sex with him, which will make him feel that he's not satisfying you (which of course he might not be while thinking the total opposite, but remember this is exactly what you're trying to improve on, so be patient).
Razor-sharp: Act totally worn out and make as if you are not interested in discussing this subject now. Make him feel that the (fake) orgasm he has just given you was fantastic.

Not-so-sharp: Ultimatums will get you nowhere, except perhaps alone with your dildo every night of the week. So, whatever you do, never demand sex-with-toys-or-no-sex-at-all.
Razor-sharp: Be ready with a quirky come-back to make him believe that you were only joking and make him feel that he satisfies you so much that the toy breaks sometimes actually just give you a break to make you on for longer.

Not-so-sharp: Not a great idea to break the ice with a condescending joke that makes him (and his tool) look like a fool.
Razor-sharp: A fly recovery blaming the women in the supermarket for making such a stupid joke because she's obviously deprived of great sex, unlike you, will do the trick to save your sex life from a dry disaster.