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The bare essentials of adult toys

So, you've decided to spice up your sex life. Only problem is that you're single or your partner is not the enthusiastic sex bunny you married 15 years ago any more. Lighten up, the joys of adult toys is just a mail order away. Discreet, unadulterated fun to prime your pleasure buds. But where to start, you might ask? There are so many adult toys to choose from, let alone try and figure out what some of them are supposed to do or what you are supposed to do with them. How to choose the right adult toy to electrify your love life without literally electrocuting yourself or your partner?

Here's a selection of the basic must-buys adult toys to start your sexperimenting with. Let the games begin:

Massage oil: What better way to slip into sexual seduction than by sensually massaging her headache away. Be prepared with something sexier than the olive oil from the kitchen.

Something to tickle your fancy: Get into a playful mood with something to tantalize and tickle your partner's love buttons. Even better if it is something sensual that can be worn with the intention of taking off as part of a sexy seduction ritual, like a feather boa, fluffy lingerie or silk scarf (great as a restraint device). Being tied up during sex is one of the simplest ways to upgrade your sexual experience.

Erotica: There's no better companion to get you in the mood if you are alone than some erotic visual stimulation it could be a sexy book or magazine, x-rated flick or internet sites. These aids are also perfect for introducing your partner to the weird and wonderful world of sexual seduction in case you are worried that your convincing power is not going to do the trick.

Lubrication: Choose from a wide selection of specially formulated emollients (oils, lotions and creams) for use on anything that needs to slip or slide during sex, increasing the comfort factor considerably. Be warned: using anything wet or oily does not necessarily qualify as lubrication. Some lubricant are not suited to use on certain adult toys, or might not be the right application for the sexual pleasure you want to explore (see chapter on lubes and stimulants).

Cock ring: This seemingly insignificant adult adult toy accessory might just give you the staying power to manage a record-breaking fifth round once you've got your sexual desire on the road. Or why not strap on something a little more extravagant that will stimulate her clitoris at the same time?

Vibrator: This is definitely the classic choice (and essential) in adult toys. Good advice would be to not be greedy or a show-off, start small, both in size and intensity, especially of you are a vibrator virgin. You an always up-size once you've gotten into the vibe of things. There's always the option of sexessorising your vibrator with an array of add-ons and hang-offs to stimulate anything from your G-spot to clitoris.

Dildo: If you are not fortunate enough to have a real penis, i.e. one that is still attached to the man, at your disposal, the second best option is a fake solid penis, or dildo, some even resembling the real McCoy complete with bulging veins. Apart from mimicking the real deal, dildos also come in a dazzling array of styles, shapes and sizes. Particularly the ones shaped to help you tickle your/or her G-spot can come in very handy to take your love play to higher levels of pleasure.

Batteries: Power up and make sure that you are stocked up on which ever batteries your adult toys use as they normally tend to die out quite fast especially of you are planning a long night of seduction. And trust Murphy's Law without a fail your batteries normally run out just before orgasm.